Friday, July 21, 2006

Yet Another Anniversary

Tomorrow (Saturday, July 22nd) is another anniversary for us. Not one of THOSE anniversaries, but one of those anniversaries. You know, the ones that you wish you didn't have to remember.

Two years ago tomorrow, we packed up our son, who was home just days from the NICU (12 to be exact), and took him back to the NICU. In reality, we were fortunate to be able to return to the NICU and the nurses and doctors that we loved. Most babies don't get to go back once they've left the NICU(he also returned when he was 6.5 months old for a hernia repair surgery).

We went in early that morning, and prepared our son for his second (of many) surgeries. This surgery was the surgery that would chart the course for us - that would confirm all the things that we didn't want to hear - that gave us the diagnosis of biliary atresia.

We knew with this diagnosis that Tanner had a 1/3 chance of never needing a liver transplant, a 1/3 chance of needing a transplant soon, and a 1/3 chance of needing a transplant sometime. We prayed to be in the first group - I was convinced I couldn't handle being in the 2nd or 3rd group. We were in the 2nd.

This year, the anniversary is easier than it was last year. I'm sure next year, it will be even easier. And, at some point, I may not even remember the anniversary. But for now, I remember three things about that day:

1. The absolute pain and fear of letting my child go through those operating doors
2. My "family" of liver moms and dads who have reached out to us in the two years since his surgery.
3. What an absolute miracle my son is - he is a fighter, and yet he giggles his way out of trouble and continuously reaches out to others. He was then, as he is now, my hero.


Laurie said...

Any anniversary like this is sure to bring some kind of sad memories. I remember when we hit the one year anniversary of Anthony's first surgery (he was a week old), I cried and cried. Last year, the whole day passed before I realized what day it was! I sat down and wrote a letter to Anthony's surgeon thanking him for doing everything in his power to help us.

Tanner is such a great kid! And so is his beautiful sister. Hope you're having a great weekend!

macboudica said...

Poor little guy! I hope you will soon be able to put that pain behind you, that he fully recovers.

Amy said...

I have chills. He is such a trooper. I hope time will heal the painful memories.